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Happy/ Mental Health Archives - Just Justice

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Choosing Happiness

Happy Tuesday friends!

About a month or so ago I went to this yoga class with a friend & boy oh boy did our sweet sweet instructor speak to me. I just had to share this little piece of advice as I think everyone needs to hear it!!

She began telling us a story about how she used to have a yoga studio in New York and how she and her family have now moved to Nashville. She said she found herself that week really missing the community that she had in New York. She missed her friendships and everything she had built there. She then began to tell us how as humans we fall into this hole of sadness, anxiety, anger, loneliness, or frustration. We sit in it. We let this run our days. She then said you know we can have many different feelings at once, what is most important is what we let drive our day. We can be sad and miss something, but we can also be really happy with our lives right now. We might be annoyed with a situation at work or with a friend, but we can choose joy over annoyance. 

I needed to hear this! I am someone who lets the littlest things ruin my day. I just let my thoughts overpower my brain sometimes, with negativity. According to the National Science Foundation, an average person has about 12,000-60,000 thoughts per day. 80% of those are negative. I have a hard time believing that it is a whole 80%!!! Let’s rewire our brains friends.

Yes, life gets hard and there will be frustrating and sad things that pop up in our everyday lives. But it is our choice on what we let drive. Happiness over being pissed off. Joy over sadness. One of my best friends and I call each other quite often and just rant to each other if something happened that day. In this case, she called me telling me how she got her feelings hurt. I told her about what my yoga instructor said… and said, “Okay we are going to be 25% frustrated, but 75% happy!” 

Last week I had two flat tires right when I got to the gym. Instead of throwing a pity party (which is what I would have normally done), I chose calmness over freaking out. Just wanted to share this little piece of advice in hopes that it spoke to you as much as it did for me. Hope y’all have a wonderful week!

 

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Setting Boundaries

Hi friends !!!

It has truly been a second since I wrote a blog, and I feel like I always say this but for real real. So much has happened to me recently, it’s actually insane. I bought a house and got engaged, and work has been crazy. Anyway I am back babbbyyyy!! Back and better than ever. 

Something my therapist + work life coach has really been pushing me to start doing is setting boundaries. In your work life, love life, in all relationships. When I first think of making boundaries, I think of it as being mean. Or making boundaries means me just telling people no. Which is not true!

My therapist sent me pictures of this book she was reading one day, and I just think it is so good I have to share. 

“Boundaries are ways to communicate our needs to others via words and actions. They are also perimeters that we establish with ourselves and others. Therefore, boundaries aren’t just about telling other people what to do but are also about holding yourself accountable for creating your life.” SO GOOD

Why is it important to have healthy boundaries you may be wondering? 

“Anxiety, depression, and burnout, among other issues, can result from your inability to set healthy expectations with yourself and others. Your body and mind know when you’ve had too much. Unfortunately, it’s common for people to fight against the signs that limitations are needed.”

  • We can’t do it all, and we shouldn’t try
  • We can’t be everything to everyone, and we shouldn’t try
  • We can’t please everyone, and we shouldn’t try.

I mean come on!!! This is so good. I don’t know about you but I am trying to do it ALL, ALL THE TIME. I try way too hard. I want everyone to like me and think I’m cool and blah blah blah. Well, I am working on this, but I am assuming some of you might be this way as well. It is human to do this. But I truly believe God is putting people in your corner for a reason. People who make you a better person and make you grow. Why is it that I want people to like me who don’t like me ?!!!! This makes no sense, again I think this is easy to do. But friends, let’s stop trying so hard.

Another instance that pops into my head is having company in town or over. When we have company in town, I do everything in my power to make sure everything is perfect, and we have a million reservations, and we have a million things to do. Well, shocker, I wear myself out and then I am so exhausted by the time my company even comes. SELF INFLICTED. Most of the time those friends don’t even want to do half the things I planned anyway! We can’t do it all friends, and that is OKAY. I have realized a lot of my stress and anxiety is self-inflicted, and I just need a chill pill. LOL

Now I kinda wanted to talk about something my life coach for work has been trying to help me with! So a little background on my work, I was an intern for the company that I worked for for 1 year and now I work full time. I love my job and love all my coworkers so much. Well, I never realized that I could communicate to my boss that I wouldn’t have time for something that day, so I would STRESS MYSELF OUT. This might seem so silly to you, but I would just say yes yes yes I can do that!!! In reality, I might have had a lot on my plate that day. In reality, my boss does not care if I tell her I can do it tomorrow. Again SELF INFLICTED. Communication baby!! You can say no! Most the time the other person doesn’t even care if we say we can’t. 

You have to set boundaries to protect yourself! Again like I said I am the type of person who just wants to wow everyone, make everyone like me, have my boss think I am such a hard worker, have my friends think I am the best host, or whatever it may be. Friends we are trying way too hard for somethings that are going to make us feel exhausted in the end. All we can do is try our hardest every single day, and I think that is enough!!

I just felt led to share about this topic, and I am also learning to set boundaries, and I do feel just less anxious and stressed!

Also hehehe I am so excited Jadon and I are filming an engagement video explaining every little detail and I am so excited to share!!!

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Ups & Downs

Happy Summer friends !!

Life has truly been so crazy with graduation and starting a job and just all the things happening.

I first want to start this blog off with the fact that I have been feeling a lot of highs and lows in the past couple of months. Graduating college is scary, and no one prepares you for the anxiety you feel lol!! I think there is this pressure society puts on you to be extremely successful right when you graduate. You should have it all together, right?

I think the biggest thing that I have been struggling with is the fact that I thought I would have it all figured out by now. Let me break it to ya, I don’t think anyone ever feels like they have figured life out. But I always thought I would by now. I think I grew up with this mindset that “by 23 I will have all my shit together.” I will be happy and feel fulfilled and feel all the happy feelings. This is not true people!! I have just been reminding myself that life is all about learning and figuring yourself out. I will always be going through things, that is life! 

I wanted to be honest in the fact that I have just been feeling off these past couple of months, and if that is you that is okay!! I am obviously not the biggest fan lol, but I do trust God and his path for me.  I think we just need to take a deep breath and enjoy the time of life that we are in. Our brains can simply be too hard on ourselves. We must stop believing the lies and anxious thoughts our brain is telling us! I obviously have been loving life at this stage, but a lot of change and uncertainty also creep in sometimes. I was telling my therapist all about these life doubts I have, telling her I just hope this is God’s path. She said, “You know you are such a big believer in God but it really doesn’t seem like you have any faith in him and what he has in store for you and your life.” LOL. I was like welppppp YOU RIGHT!! 

Psalm 20:7 says that many will trust in the world and the things it has to offer, but few will trust in God. My challenge for you today is to just put more trust in him and his plan for your life. 

Speaking of my therapist she also said something to me the other day that just made me really think, and I wanted to share it with you. She asked me, “Where are you your happiest? Who are you with? What are all the vibes?” This really made me realize that my happy self is not in Nashville. My most confident, fun-loving, peaceful Justice is at the lake with my family in Michigan. There is something so peaceful about being with your person and the people you love with no worries. My therapist began to explain how it’s sad that I am not the happiest version of myself here in Nashville where I live!  I explained wellllll there is just so much going on here in Nashville. Work is stressful, I am trying to be successful, have good grades, and have a social life and blah blah blah. There is a lot of pressure. I feel like I need to be doing something at all times when I am in Nashville. What if I started treating Nashville like the lake? Taking more time out of the day for me? Being around people that my soul feel happier. Doing things that I want to do!

I have spoken on this before, but I mostly am saying this because I need to also hear it. We are in control of our happiness. If I am being honest I have not been taking care of myself recently. I have just been so anxious about what my life Is going to look like and if I am doing all the right things in the right order, I have not been taking care of myself. 

I encourage you to just realize how beautiful your life is. Lean into spending time with yourself. You get to wake up every morning and be a change in someone’s life. You personally have the ability to do that in someone’s life. You have the ability to make someone feel seen and beautiful. You have friends and family in your life that love you. You have so many wonderful opportunities in life for traveling and being successful. There is just so much to life. So when I start spiraling and freaking out a little inside, I hope I can remind myself of these same things. 

Most importantly you have a God that is so in love with you and only wants you to be happy. He personally hand-made you… how freaking cool. 

Every single day, we have two choices: we can simply react to everything happening around us, or we can take action and create the lives we want to live. Don’t give someone else the keys to your happiness!

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Devotional: If We Only Knew

Hello friends!!

I am back with another lil devotional/ encouraging Jesus message. I have been reading this devotional called Embraced by Lysa TerKeurst. It is a book full of devotionals and let me just tell you today’s devotion was too good not to share. TOO GOOD friends. I also have been so incredibly busy in the last 5 days that I have not sat down and done my devotional. I’m like dang I miss my special time with Jesus. I just wanted to share that, because if that’s you and you haven’t spent time with Jesus in a while let me reassure you it is okay. We all get busy, but I can promise you that time with Jesus can bring you so much peace and happiness. 

I always think of those “perfect Christians” and I am like oh my gosh they must do their devotional every day and go to church everyday Sunday… right? Well, they might. Plus there are no perfect Christians. I want to remind you that every relationship with Jesus might look different. Some people may not like big churches, small groups, worship, intimate churches, or even church at all. That does not mean they are not Christian. If you feel like the best way to feel close to God is going on a hike or even just painting while you listen to worship music, I am rooting you on. 

Anyways here is my prayer for you guys: May you catch even the slightest glimpse of the tender mercy of our Lord Jesus. For one drop of the Lord’s mercy is better than an ocean of the world’s comfort.

My devotion was all about how life can bring so many different hard situations. Your finances never seem to balance. Your broken promise to a friend. Your lack of trust in a partner. Your constant messiness is always distracting you from the peace you want in your life. 

“If only we knew how deeply Jesus understands and cares for us. If only we could see the wonder of His love. The skies He paints, the flowers He blooms, the world He arranges just for us. The love letters He’s written to us throughout the Bible.” 

“Hebrews 4:15-16 reminds us of how approachable He is, how He understands our struggles and graciously offers us help and hope: “We do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are- yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

I just loved this devotional so much because I realized that Jesus has felt every feeling I have ever felt. That just encourages me to fully trust God’s process and listen to him. I am about to graduate college in a month or so & I am feeling all the stress and anxiety. I keep reminding myself God has a wonderful and beautiful plan and I just need to be patient.

I think our lives can get a little crazy. We are busy with school, a kid, work, traveling, or whatever it is. I hope we can just start taking time out of our day to talk to God and truly spend time with him. I just felt led to share this message, as I needed to hear this message.

I hope this was also encouraging to you as well. Love yall so much !!

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NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO UP!!! JADON DOES MY MAKEUP

Hi cutie pies!!!

My new YouTube video is up!!!!!
“BOYFRIEND DOES MY MAKEUP + ANSWERING RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONS!!” The link is below. I want to start getting back into making videos because they are so fun to make. Jadon is doing my makeup while we talk about our relationship and how we did long distance. Let me know if you like them and I will make more, hehe ILY