Hi friends !!!

It has truly been a second since I wrote a blog, and I feel like I always say this but for real real. So much has happened to me recently, it’s actually insane. I bought a house and got engaged, and work has been crazy. Anyway I am back babbbyyyy!! Back and better than ever. 

Something my therapist + work life coach has really been pushing me to start doing is setting boundaries. In your work life, love life, in all relationships. When I first think of making boundaries, I think of it as being mean. Or making boundaries means me just telling people no. Which is not true!

My therapist sent me pictures of this book she was reading one day, and I just think it is so good I have to share. 

“Boundaries are ways to communicate our needs to others via words and actions. They are also perimeters that we establish with ourselves and others. Therefore, boundaries aren’t just about telling other people what to do but are also about holding yourself accountable for creating your life.” SO GOOD

Why is it important to have healthy boundaries you may be wondering? 

“Anxiety, depression, and burnout, among other issues, can result from your inability to set healthy expectations with yourself and others. Your body and mind know when you’ve had too much. Unfortunately, it’s common for people to fight against the signs that limitations are needed.”

• We can’t do it all, and we shouldn’t try
• We can’t be everything to everyone, and we shouldn’t try
• We can’t please everyone, and we shouldn’t try.

I mean come on!!! This is so good. I don’t know about you but I am trying to do it ALL, ALL THE TIME. I try way too hard. I want everyone to like me and think I’m cool and blah blah blah. Well, I am working on this, but I am assuming some of you might be this way as well. It is human to do this. But I truly believe God is putting people in your corner for a reason. People who make you a better person and make you grow. Why is it that I want people to like me who don’t like me ?!!!! This makes no sense, again I think this is easy to do. But friends, let’s stop trying so hard.

Another instance that pops into my head is having company in town or over. When we have company in town, I do everything in my power to make sure everything is perfect, and we have a million reservations, and we have a million things to do. Well, shocker, I wear myself out and then I am so exhausted by the time my company even comes. SELF INFLICTED. Most of the time those friends don’t even want to do half the things I planned anyway! We can’t do it all friends, and that is OKAY. I have realized a lot of my stress and anxiety is self-inflicted, and I just need a chill pill. LOL

Now I kinda wanted to talk about something my life coach for work has been trying to help me with! So a little background on my work, I was an intern for the company that I worked for for 1 year and now I work full time. I love my job and love all my coworkers so much. Well, I never realized that I could communicate to my boss that I wouldn’t have time for something that day, so I would STRESS MYSELF OUT. This might seem so silly to you, but I would just say yes yes yes I can do that!!! In reality, I might have had a lot on my plate that day. In reality, my boss does not care if I tell her I can do it tomorrow. Again SELF INFLICTED. Communication baby!! You can say no! Most the time the other person doesn’t even care if we say we can’t. 

You have to set boundaries to protect yourself! Again like I said I am the type of person who just wants to wow everyone, make everyone like me, have my boss think I am such a hard worker, have my friends think I am the best host, or whatever it may be. Friends we are trying way too hard for somethings that are going to make us feel exhausted in the end. All we can do is try our hardest every single day, and I think that is enough!!

I just felt led to share about this topic, and I am also learning to set boundaries, and I do feel just less anxious and stressed!

Also hehehe I am so excited Jadon and I are filming an engagement video explaining every little detail and I am so excited to share!!!